trust the process

     In PA school one of our professors always said "trust the process".  What she meant is that we had to trust the the professors were giving us the skills and knowledge to get through school, pass boards and not look completely moronic at our first jobs (maybe we still did 😆). I held onto that but now realize it can be applied in a biblical sense as well. 

    Today marks 98 days since Jason left – this time. On Friday, 100 days later, we get to see him and excitement would be an understatement. (HE'S GRADUATING FROM ARMY RANGER SCHOOL! HOW AWESOME IS THAT!?) He has not seen Sebastian since he was 11 months old and as most of you know, children change so quickly. I am overjoyed thinking about the two of them together again. 



    I could not tell you how many times over the past couple years someone has said to me “you know what you signed up for” when talking about Jason being gone. More and more this has been on my mind and I wanted to share a few thoughts.

    I did not take a leap of faith moving to Cleveland, I knew 100% that was Gods plan at that time. Jason and I were dating and I did not just move out here just for the relationship. It was life sending me in a new direction, taking me on a knew adventure I knew God had put in place for me.

April is the month of the military child. Hats off to this little guy and all the military kids out there. 

    Finding out he was leaving almost right away (literally the 2nd week I turned the keys in at my place in Michigan) was not the greatest news I have ever received. I told someone the other day, that deployment helped me dive deeper with Jason and allowed walls to come down which may have taken years. I had to decide – am I in or out. Jason has always known he was in. 😊 I just came to realization quickly I did not want to spend a day of my life without this man. The depth of that unconditional love is something I never experienced before. 



    We were engaged, married and pregnant all within 363 days of knowing each other. What a scary amazing blessing to be given to two people. When I moved here, when I said I do to Jason, when we made the conscious decision to start a family I cannot say I knew what I was signing up for.

    I did not know it would bring 21 months out of 26 without him. I did not know it would bring weeks on end without hearing his voice. The worry that comes with deployment, the unknowns of when he would be home. I did not know the struggle the loneliness would bring to my life. How isolated I would feel being pregnant, having a baby and having a baby while being pregnant. How do you know those are the feelings you are signing up for – you don’t.



    I don’t think there is a military spouse in the world who would actually use the phrase “you know what you signed up for”.

    Here is what I do know. 

ONE: God put us in a specific place at a specific time to meet. 
He brought us together through him and has strengthen our individual relationships with God through this relationship. Trusting this was and is God’s plan. 

TWO: What I know is I was signing up for was to support my military husband unconditionally regardless of the separation and stress the military would bring our family. Those are easy concrete things to get behind.



    I think this applies in all things. You are going through a hard time in life – trust God, lean on him and know that in his plan he will bring you through. Jason and I will go through a honeymoon phase of him being home. Then we will likely go through a tough time of bringing our individual lives back together. You know what though, God will bring us through! Amazing, I do not even have to worry about the outcome because I know! We will sing his praises during those high times and the low. It’s a beautiful simple thing if you really think about it.

    We will all face challenges, if there’s one given in life its that. Trust the process, lift one another up and lean on God. 



 

 

 

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